"Use your words", is such a common phrase that's tenderly used when attempting to guide & slow children down in order to enable them to outwardly express their overwhelming inward emotion. Maybe, it's not that they don't have the words, but rather that they don't know which precise words to use. Consequently, what does end up spewing out are grunts & not so pretty actions.. The struggle of finding the appropriate words to express our inward emotions can be a life long endeavo