If you've been alive for more than a few moments, you've probably been through some sort of transition. Some people seem to thrive in a season of transition while some of us seem to flop around like a fish out of water trying to figure out what's going on. Some transitions in my life I feel like I've handled like a champ. The transition came, I took it in stride, and kept on rocking and rolling. However in the biggest transition seasons in my life I have been the one flopping about and trying to make sense of it all.
I think the biggest lesson I've learned when it comes to transition in life is simply this: It's ok to not be ok. And you're allowed to feel what you feel.
Not everyone processes or handles things in the same way. Sure some people breeze through things like it's absolutely nothing. And then some folks don't. Where we get ourselves into trouble is when we look around and think that we have to be/do what other people are. We watch people sailing through things and beat ourselves up that we're having such a hard time. Or we sail through and beat ourselves up for not feeling more during the season.
Let me let you in on a little secret, everyone is different and therefore handles everything according to how they are made. Do you have a harder time when it comes to big changes in life? That's ok! Do you seem to walk through the fires and not turn into an emotional basket-case? That's ok too!
Ultimately what matters in all of it is what we do with the feelings we have and how we submit them to God. What the feelings are don't matter, it's about what we do with them that matters.